The first time my sister cooked for me, we were both in our 20s and
living together in my 500 square foot studio apartment on the Upper West
Side of Manhattan. It was the day I had quit my job working in book
publicity and had decided to go back to freelance film production work.
My sister, Alexandra, having just finished up her first transfer
semester at the Fashion Institute of Technology, wanted to make us a
home-cooked meal to celebrate our big life changes. She was already
cooking by the time I arrived at our apartment that evening. I smelled
pasta boiling and lots of lemon and basil. I started over towards the
blender to take a sniff, but she shooed me away. “It’s almost done. Go
and sit down.”
Food, Family and Memory
Food, Family, and Memory
Caviar Pie and a Mother's Love
There are moments during the holiday season where recipes are true soul food. Instead of feeling sadness about the ones we have lost and are no longer seated at the table sharing the day with us, we can feel happiness by knowing how loved we were by recreating their favorite recipes that they would make for us.
This Russian Caviar Pie is a secret Medavoy recipe that is only made for Easter, Thanksgiving, Birthdays and Christmas. The caviar that tops it can run the range from red salmon caviar to Beluga. Osetra has the best taste but even the black unknown variety for ten bucks has done in a pinch.
My mother, terminal with liposarcoma, feeding tube in her, unable to eat, still made her traditional Russian Easter for us one month before she passed away. The Caviar Pie was the center of it. You slice it, you serve it with a shot of vodka or champagne and life is good. It was her way of saying "I love you" - nothing will change if you keep these traditions up. Remember me. I will be watching over you and your son and husband.
"Everything that matters is under this roof right now" I had just become a mother, my son was two months old, and she was teaching me what was important. God, How i miss her. And when I slice up the pie, I can see her, feel her, and have so much joy that she is still at our table. And as I am sure she knew, it's my son's favorite recipe at holiday time.
Birthday Weekend on 10,000 Calories a Day
I turned fifty-two last week. While I’m told that fifty-two is the new thirty-eight, no one told my metabolism. It seems to have slowed even more than I have. Knowing this, and knowing that the only way to really celebrate a birthday is to eat and then eat some more, my wife, Peggy, and I had been dieting from the end of the holidays to the big day – ten whole days. And when the big day came, we wasted no time in returning to our post-holiday fighting weight. Here is how we did it.
Thursday, my actual birthday, was the big kick off. We went to Patina for its annual truffle dinner. Patina has been having these extravagant dinners in honor of the truffle – yes, it is celebrating a fungus, but what a fungus - for the past several years, and we always talked about going, and this year, the dinner fell on my birthday. Given that Peggy and I have been together for almost 30 years, and she has simply run out of things to buy me as a birthday gift, especially just two weeks after Christmas, we decided that this would be it. She couldn’t have done better.
What Happens If Your Mother Has Plastic Surgery?
I haven't been watching many reality shows lately because of the crying. There is simply too much of it. Last season on Project Runway, Christopher cried because he was sure that he was the only person in
the world who would design a dress inspired by a rock (something I am
sure he is wrong about). I have no idea how much crying there is on The Hills, since I was never a fan, but it did catch my attention in People
magazine that Heidi Montag, star of the show, cried after she had ten
plastic surgery procedures in one day. Heidi, I know from a quick
Google search, is 23, although since her plastic surgery she looks 33.
Which is actually something to cry about.
I have been interested in and done research on this subject spun
slightly different: What happens if your mother (not your favorite
reality star) has plastic surgery? This is the subject of my new novel
for teenagers, The Girl with the Mermaid Hair.
If, as a teenager, you spend hours in front of a mirror deciding, say, whether one nostril is larger than the other or worrying whether your breasts point in different directions (typical teenage obsessing), do you outgrow this madness or make more radical choices if your mother comes home with larger lips, a smaller ass, a new chin, a different nose, bigger breasts? How do you feel if your mom suddenly doesn't have any expression in her face? Or if you look into your mother's eyes and no one is home?
One Hundred Miles of Solitude
Yesterday morning, I stood at the entranceway to our living room and surveyed the damage. There were stacks of books and magazines on the coffee table, tumbles of blankets on the couch, a smattering of empty mugs with used tea bag strings dangling over their rims. My abandoned crutches were leaning on the door, my physical therapy CPM machine on the floor.
Two weeks after my hip surgery I can finally walk without assistance.
This, unfortunately, means I can clean as well.
It’s fine. I like it actually. It’s very cathartic after two weeks of being absolutely still.
Shannon, my insane boyfriend and exceptional caretaker, has taken the weekend off to run a marathon in Niagara. He’s an ultra runner.
This marathon is 100 miles. ONE HUNDRED MILES. I know. I think the same thing.
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